“In a chronically leaking boat, energy devoted to changing vessels is more productive than energy devoted to patching leaks.” – Warren Buffett
So, you are feeling stuck? What’s the big deal? Well, it all depends on what it has been costing you. I am talking about things like health, wealth, happiness, contentment, inner peace, confidence, peace of mind, being successful. You get it.
As I mentioned in my previous blogs, the process of feeling stuck is a normal part of human evolution. What isn’t so normal is the negative beliefs and misunderstandings around change and getting unstuck. In this section, I am going to explain to you in more technical words how I use Neuro Emotional Coaching®, or NEC®, as a means to assist you to rewire yourself and open up to new possibilities and change.
NEC® combines neuroscience, muscle testing and positive psychology, together with more commonly-known personal coaching techniques and another technique called Neuro Emotional Technique®, to change your response to your current situation or circumstance. It leaves you fundamentally re-wired, wholly aligned, and most of all, energized and ready for positive action. It supports you to change your behavior so that you can carry out the actions that will deliver you your amazing life.
The secret to change is to understand what trigger is keeping you stuck. In other words, a pattern (conscious or unconscious) is surfacing as you are trying to change. NEC® helps you to identify those elusive connections and neutralize your emotional responses, so that you not only want to achieve your goals – but you are actually ready, willing and able to do it.
How does it work? In order to understand this further, we need to take a look at our brain and its basic functions. For example, did you know that your body holds the key to every one of your fears, insecurities and limitations? Your body knows what you think you’re worth, why you can’t change and whether or not you can successfully manage your business, career or personal life.
How can this be? Emotions are part of the natural response process people have to virtually every situation we encounter. Each emotional response is produced from a chemical reaction in our body, most often triggered by events that occurred in the past. In other words, we don’t respond newly to events happening right now. Instead, our brain is programmed to attach the new experience to a prior one, to some similar situation from the past. In a split second, these experiences combine, and the “new” experience triggers an unconscious reaction to the past, and we behave accordingly. In this way, “emotional baggage” from a single, seemingly insignificant past event can have a residual impact our behavior in the present, instantaneously building “safe” boundaries for what we say is possible, but ultimately disempowering ourselves and limiting our full potential. Managing a business, for example, can be a stressful lifestyle likely to trigger such an incongruous response in the body.
The human brain has three major parts called the neo-cortex, limbic system and reptilian brain, which all have a drive of their own. When any of these three parts are in conflict, you will sabotage your conscious will to satisfy the needs of one or more of the other drives. Emotional alignment means all three parts of your brain are rowing together in the same direction to take you where you consciously want to be going.
Okay, let’s take a look at a possible situation. Suppose your neo-cortex, or conscious mind, wants you to have a successful business. This is rational, logical and, of course, you did not go into business for yourself to fail. Coincidentally, your reptilian brain, which is unconscious and consumed by survival, is terrified that you’re going to be dominated and taken advantage of by the hours that you will have to spend in “making” it as a business owner. Perhaps your corporate job was stressful, but being in business for yourself is a whole new experience. Moreover, your limbic system or subconscious mind is paralyzed by how often you are being rejected. Going on sales appointments reminds you of your struggling father who was a failure at inside sales and never seemed to get ahead.
The problem of alignment becomes obvious when described in such a hypothetical way. With these differing patterns of thought and feeling running in the background of you running your business, it is very unlikely that you will be successful. But what is even more disturbing is the fact that in most cases, we are clueless about what is going on in the limbic (subconscious) or reptilian (unconscious) parts of our brain.
NEC® uses the connection between your mind and body to uncover the particular patterns that are currently blocking you from manifesting your goals. Once the present and historical basis of your pattern is revealed, the unresolved energy gets released and neutralized and permanent alignment is established. You are then free to create and enjoy an experience of freedom and success in every area of life.
• Losing weight and keeping it off
• Decreasing stress and anxiety
• Letting go of the past and creating a clear vision for the future
• Improving targeted behaviors such as procrastination, negative thinking, resistance to change or the need to control
• Showing up differently and gaining overall leadership and management skills
• Building productive relationships, in and out of the office
• Learning how to delegate more effectively and when (and how) to say “yes” or “no”
• Creating peace of mind and balance between your personal and professional life
If you are ready to tackle any of these issue or have anything else that you want to address, please give me a call. NEC® may change your life forever.
As a Leadership Coach, Personal Life Coach, and author of From Intuition to Entrepreneurship: a Woman’s Guide to Following Her Dream, Barbara has the insight to achieve quick and lasting success with a focus on bottom-line results. And, since success involves the entire person, Barbara has created Neuro Emotional Coaching®, a cutting edge 4-step process rooted in neuroscience that combines personal coaching with knowledge of the human brain and its impact on change and leadership.